人因梦想而伟大。

---Anonymous

a quote that i like very much. (:

but there should be a distinction between dreams and unrealistic goals,

白日梦s are simply not equitable to 梦想s.

some may say that it’s a thin line that separates the two,

but i beg to differ.

梦想 are your dreams and aspirations, goals that you work towards,

unlike 白日梦s where you expect them to fall from the sky?

well, i suppose most people, including myself, might be guilty of confusing the two,

but we must agree that, at the end of the day, there should be a clear distinction.

am i right to say that we don’t want to devalue the meaning of 梦想, by using it to refer to meaningless 白日梦s?

yes i agree i’m an idealist,

but that certainly doesn’t equate to being unrealistic.

i’m a realistic idealist.

oxymoron? – maybe.

but then again, i’m sure the two are not mutually exclusive.

…

i see the need to resurface this issue from my earlier post because i found out that some people really have this misconceived notion about 伟大ness due predominantly to their narrow definition of success – which i never said was wrong, but just it’s just narrow, something that i cannot stand.

why must one limit oneself to what the rest of society perceive?

have you asked yourself if that is what you truly wanted?

will you be truly happy?

here’s a nice way to put it:

Don’t set your goals according to what others perceive as “successful”.

Ultimately, only you know what is best for you.

---Anonymous

in any case i believe that most people will have the same shared goals:

material well-being, spritual well-being, work-life-balance,  friends, family, …

however you phrase it,

i think it all boils down to the big underlying word:

HAPPINESS

and i believe there is more than one way to achieve it,

depending on what is your priority.

if you think that at this moment,

a cup of coffee will make you the happiness man in the world,

so be it, go get yourself one (:

but if you’re concerned that in the long run your health will suffer from the repercussions of drinking that one single cup of coffee,

ok, don’t drink it.

sacrifice your craving a longer-term benefit.

but this is just talking about a single cup of coffee,

to me, i think that’s paranoia? – it’s just one cup of coffee, quite harmless right? (assuming you haven’t already been drinking 1000 cups prior to that)

but i understand that to some others it might mean more than just that – maybe it’s not the coffee that actually matters but it’s the issue about giving in to temptations being a violation of your life-long principles?

ok maybe my coffee example isn’t all that good to illustrate my point,

but what i want to say is,

just because this person has this grand “梦寐以求”goal of doing this certain thing,

it doesnt mean that you must be so astounded/jealous/envious that you have to start making it your life-long ambition too,

(and then feel all 自卑 and dejected when you can’t achieve it)

while it may be good for one person,

it may not be the best for you.

why must you let this thing be a gauge of your self-worth?

have you stopped to ask yourself if that is what you truly wanted, and stop just blindly following the crowd?

why care so much about what the others think?

You live YOUR life for YOURSELF.

at the end of the day,

you are only answerable to YOURSELF, not them.

only you know want you truly want,

and you have only one chance to live it.

i’m sure you dont wish to be lying on your deathbed one day,

lamenting on all your regrets of how you spent your whole lifetime living up to the aspirations of someone else, and doing what others deem as successful,

instead of living YOUR own life.

by that time, 看着指尖(生命)已经如烟…

yeah.

although i’m not sure if i put it across clearly,

but what i’m trying to say is

everyone has different priorities,

regardless whether it’s the conventional or eccentric,

according to the Sinatra Doctrine: “Do it your Way”

regardless of what the others think,

“only you know what is best for you” (:

and this is my way :

SiMin’s philosophy to life:

这一生只愿只要平凡快乐
谁说这样不伟大呢 (:     

---五月天

while you may think nothing of my 2-cents worth,

to me, it’s priceless.

all the best to attaining your 真正的快乐 (:

*Note: i wrote this more for my own reading/ranting pleasure without thinking of anything/anyone in mind so please ignore this if you simply think it’s all rubbish (: